TikTok creator @alexaabney69, known as Alexa Abney, shared a viral storytime video detailing a negative first date experience that resonated with millions. The post, which has garnered over 6 million views and more than 7,000 comments, sparked a widespread discussion about dating red flags and online harassment.
First Date Marked by Dismissive Behavior
Recording from inside her car, Alexa explained the date occurred roughly a week before posting. She described the interaction as unpleasant from the start, noting her date appeared uninterested in her perspective.
“He was just giving hater number one… Couldn’t be happy for anything that I said or anything that I was doing.”
According to Alexa, the man failed to offer any compliments or acknowledge the accomplishments she shared during their conversation.
Unsolicited Video Sent Days Later
Offended by his demeanor, Alexa decided to cease communication. Nearly a week of silence followed, after which the man sent a video directly to her TikTok account. Alexa said the clip featured a man characterizing women as “crazy” and “illogical,” claiming they operate primarily on emotion. The video also asserted that men in committed relationships effectively assume the role of their partner’s therapist.
Alexa expressed surprise at receiving the unsolicited content. The vast majority of commenters supported her decision to disengage, with many stating she had “dodged a bullet” and accusing the man of harboring resentment toward women.
Commenters Rally Support, Analyze Behavior
The comment section became a forum for validation and analysis. One viewer emphasized Alexa’s lack of obligation to the date.
“Sis, you owe him nothing. You didn’t name him, didn’t shame him—he exposed himself like a toddler throwing a tantrum. And now look, you’ve got an army of women behind you. We see your worth. You were right to ghost.”
Several users compared the man’s follow-up message to attention-seeking behavior typical of young children.
“As a mother of toddlers, he’s desperately seeking attention from you. Positive or negative, doesn’t matter. He’s hopelessly trying to make you look/speak/think about him. Don’t and he’ll go away.”
A minority of commenters, including some men, defended the date’s perspective and questioned Alexa’s account.
“I just watched his video where the full story was never told at all & he is very lucky he got away! Red flags big time!”
Source Verification Note
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the specific circumstances of the date or the content of the man’s video. The details reported here are based solely on the account shared by TikTok creator @alexaabney69.
