Key Highlights
- TikTok creator Les says a man used details from her videos to appear as though they shared the same interests and relationship goals.
- She says the man later revealed that he wanted her help becoming a content creator.
- Les ended the date, called his behavior creepy and blocked him; The Daily Dot could not independently verify her account.
TikTok Creator Says Date Used Her Videos to Mimic Shared Interests
TikTok creator @aldo.de.les, whose name is Les, says a man she met through a dating app appeared to study her entire TikTok account before their first date. According to Les, he repeated her favorite shows, anime interests, travel aspirations and relationship goals in a way that initially made it seem as though they were highly compatible.
In a video posted to TikTok, Les explains that the man initially stopped responding after they connected on a dating app. He later resumed contact with casual messages, including compliments and questions about her day. The two eventually arranged to meet for breakfast after Les appreciated his approach. At the time of publication, her video had received 2.1 million views and 3,071 comments.
The night before their date, the man told Les that he had recently begun fasting. She viewed that positively because she had recently started posting about her own weight-loss journey. They met at 7 a.m. the next morning, and Les began by asking what he wanted from a relationship.
“And immediately he’s like, telling me about myself,” she says.
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Man Repeated Les’s Favorite Shows and Interests
Les says she did not immediately understand what was happening and initially believed the conversation was developing naturally. She became increasingly uncomfortable when the man began naming interests she had frequently discussed on TikTok.
“I asked him, I say, what are your favorite TV shows? And he says, Grey’s Anatomy, which I post about all the time. And then he says every single anime that I’ve ever talked about on my page. And so that’s when I was like, this is kind of weird,” she says.
She also says he repeatedly discussed the anime Chainsaw Man, which she enjoys. To test whether he genuinely knew the series, Les asked him to name his favorite character and said hers was Brody. Brody is not a character in Chainsaw Man but is her sister’s dog. Les says the man failed to recognize the reference and agreed as though Brody were part of the series.
The discussion then moved to travel. The man said he wanted to visit New York City, a place Les had visited several weeks earlier. He specifically described wanting to sit and read at the New York Public Library, which Les says closely matched a video she had posted about her own dream of visiting the library.
“This next part is when I knew. And my stomach honestly started hurting because I just felt so uneasy and, like, violated. I don’t even know if that’s the right word, but he says, my dream is to go to the New York Public Library and just sit there and read. He’s like, I’ve always thought about it, and I feel like it would just change my life. I literally made an entire video talking about how that was my dream and how I got to live it and how I was so happy. And that’s when I clocked it,” she says.
Les Says Date Wanted Help With His TikTok Career
Les says she understood that her social media posts were public, but hearing her personal interests repeated during the date made her feel violated. She then asked the man about his views on TikTok, hoping to understand why he appeared to know so much about her.
He reportedly said he spent much of his time scrolling through TikTok. When Les asked what type of content he watched, he said he followed content creators because he wanted to become one himself.
Les then asked whether he had heard of her username. She says he admitted that he had seen her videos, leading her to question whether that was the reason he had been so persistent about meeting her.
“He goes, I’m gonna be honest. He’s like, I really wanna be a content creator. I’m sick of my job. And I feel like we both have things that the other person wants, and I feel like we can help each other,” she recalls him saying.
Les says she uses TikTok for fun and has no plans to become a full-time content creator. When she asked what she would receive from the arrangement, she says his answer made her feel physically ill.
“I literally just posted a video like a day or two ago talking about how, like, the only thing that I want from a relationship is companionship. And he literally says that to me. He’s like, oh, well, like, you know, a partner in crime. He’s like someone to do life with, which is this actual f–king phrase that I literally said in that video. And I actually felt like I wanted to throw up,” she says.
Les says she told the man he was being creepy, left the date and blocked him immediately. She also says she hesitated before posting about the experience because she knew he would see her story. Ultimately, she decided to share it because she believed he might try to create content from the encounter.
Viewers Compare Experience to Fictional Stalker Joe Goldberg
Many viewers responded by comparing the alleged behavior to “mirroring,” a term used to describe adopting another person’s interests or mannerisms to create a sense of similarity. Several commenters shared images of Joe Goldberg, the fictional stalker played by Penn Badgley in the Netflix series You.
“It’s called mirroring. Glad you caught it before he got too close to you and did the change up,” one user commented.
Other viewers said the account made them reconsider how much personal information they share publicly online.
“Why are people so surprised when this happens. This is why you should never share your entire life on a public platform like this,” another user wrote.
“This is powerful confirmation. I just saw a video a woman posted about never sharing about desires in a mate online for this reason! Sorry this happened to you, and thank you for sharing it with us,” another commenter said.
Why This Matters
Les’s account highlights how publicly available social media posts can reveal highly specific details about a person’s routines, preferences, ambitions and relationship expectations. In this case, she says those details were used during an in-person date to create the impression of shared interests before the man disclosed his own goal of becoming a content creator.
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the events described by TikTok creator @aldo.de.les, which are based on her personal account of the date shared in her video. Les says her response was to leave the date and block the man after confronting him about his behavior.
Frequently Asked Questions
Who is @aldo.de.les?
@aldo.de.les is a TikTok creator named Les who shared her account of a first date with a man she says had studied her videos and used details from them during their conversation.
What did Les say the man wanted?
Les says the man told her he wanted to become a content creator and believed they could help each other. She says she uses TikTok for fun and does not plan to become a full-time content creator.
Was Les’s account independently verified?
No. The Daily Dot reported that it was unable to independently verify the events described in Les’s TikTok video.
