Key Highlights:
- A post on r/BoyDinnerDiaries asked whether a man should warn his ex-girlfriend that her new partner may be seeing someone else.
- The post said the couple had been together for seven years before she left for a co-worker and later sought a friendship.
- Reddit commenters largely advised maintaining distance from the ex, while one suggested warning the woman allegedly involved with the new partner.
Man asks Reddit whether to warn ex about alleged cheating
A post on Reddit’s r/BoyDinnerDiaries asked whether a man should tell his former girlfriend that the person she left him for was allegedly seeing someone else. The post had received more than 9,800 upvotes and 914 comments at the time of publication.
The poster said his girlfriend of seven years left him for one of her co-workers during ““in probably the darkest time of my life,”” while still wanting to remain friends. He wrote that the breakup nearly cost him his life on three separate occasions, describing it as ‘literally almost taking my life three separate times. He added, ““I’m slowly getting over it but it is always going to hurt I fear.””
According to the post, he began recovering after returning to the gym and getting ““in better shape.”” He also said he was ““doing all the steps to maintain my mental health.””
What the Reddit poster learned about his ex’s new relationship
The night before publishing the post, the man said he was watching football with friends when a photo of his ex-girlfriend and her new partner appeared on Snapchat. A woman sitting nearby asked whether he knew the man in the photo and then told him the pair were ‘actively hooking up.’
““My heart broke for my ex and now I’m conflicted,”” the poster wrote. He asked Reddit users, ““Do I say anything? Is it any of my business? Why should I even care?””
Commenters recommend cutting contact and avoiding drama
One commenter responded by sharing a similar personal experience. ““OP, I’ve been where you are,”” they wrote. ““You want to stop hurting? Get rid of all the connections, all the mementos, everything.””
The same commenter advised the poster to store away anything he could not bring himself to discard. ““She f—– you over, don’t have anything to do with her. Please,”” they wrote.
Another commenter said they had also ended a long relationship by cutting off every possible connection. ““I literally just blocked him on EVERYTHING,”” they wrote, including ““his mother, his roommate, any connection, every app.”” They said they deliberately avoided seeing photos of their former partner. ““It was honestly so liberating knowing I wasn’t going to scroll past a pic of him,”” the commenter wrote.
A separate reply addressed the poster’s current relationship circumstances. ““Respect the person you are currently seeing by not inserting yourself into drama regarding your ex,”” the commenter wrote. However, they suggested the poster could alert the woman who had shared the information: ““But maybe let that friend of yours know that the dude she is hooking up with is not single,”” they wrote.
What remains unverified about the Reddit story
The Daily Dot said it could not independently verify the relationships, the alleged infidelity, or the events described in the Reddit post and its comments. It also could not confirm whether the man was seeing anyone else. The poster did not identify his ex-girlfriend, her partner, or the friend who allegedly disclosed the relationship.
Why This Matters
The discussion highlights the uncertainty that can follow an emotionally difficult breakup, particularly when former partners remain connected through friends and social media. The Reddit commenters focused primarily on boundaries, limiting exposure to an ex’s online activity, and avoiding involvement in relationship drama. Because the claims were anonymous and unverified, the post does not establish that cheating occurred or show whether the poster contacted anyone involved.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What did the Reddit post ask?
The poster asked whether he should tell his ex-girlfriend that her new partner was allegedly seeing someone else, or whether the matter was no longer his business.
What did commenters advise?
Several commenters recommended cutting contact with the ex and removing reminders of the relationship. Another advised respecting the poster’s current relationship by avoiding involvement in the ex’s drama, while suggesting he could tell the woman who allegedly disclosed the relationship that the man was not single.
Were the allegations independently confirmed?
No. The Daily Dot reported that it could not independently verify the relationships, the alleged infidelity, or the events described in the Reddit post and comments.
