TikTok creator @trey.lars shared a viral story about being ghosted after months of planning a first date with a woman he met on a dating app. The video has amassed nearly 8 million views and over 17,500 comments and engagements, resonating widely with viewers frustrated by modern dating dynamics.
Two Months of Communication Ends in Silence
According to Trey, he and the woman communicated consistently for two months. Roughly a month into their connection, they arranged their first in-person meeting. On the scheduled day, she canceled, citing illness. Trey said she appeared genuinely unwell, so he continued the conversation and remained open to rescheduling.
Renewed Plans and Detailed Preparation
Weeks later, Trey mentioned he would be leaving work early on a Friday and proposed another date. She responded positively, prompting him to move forward with concrete plans. He secured reservations at one of his favorite restaurants for Friday evening.
To confirm the timing, Trey messaged her on Tuesday. She replied that the schedule still worked. The following day, he sent the full details, noting he would drive to her location. He also suggested a round of mini-golf after dinner if time allowed, given the distance he was traveling. She never responded.
Ghosted Despite Confirmation
Trey waited hours without a reply. At midnight, he texted again, asking her to confirm availability before he headed to work Friday morning. No response came.
When Friday arrived, his messages remained unread. He reached out on another social platform where he saw she was active but not replying. He then sent a voicemail requesting a response. Shortly after, he said she blocked him. Trey stated he has not heard from her since.
In the TikTok caption, he expressed his frustration directly:
@trey.lars Genuinely still heated from this. Happened today, but I just can’t wrap my head around how it’s so hard to tell someone you’re not interested or at least not leave them on when it requires planning on their end. You know who you are, don’t do this to the next guy that tries to plan something with you. Ridiculous. #ghosted #stoodup #overthis #dating #fyp ♬ original sound – Trey L
Viewer Reactions Highlight Shared Frustration
The comment section filled with support for Trey’s effort and condemnation of ghosting culture. Many women praised his intentional planning.
You did everything right. So many women would love this effort and appreciate it deeply. It’s hard to find a man who plans dates so precisely nowadays. I hope you find someone who matches your effort, she’s out there!!
Others shared similar experiences:
Same thing happened to me. HE planned what would have been our THIRD date. We talked the entire day before. I texted him the morning of, he goes on dnd and I never heard from him again. It’s diabolical out here.
A third commenter summed up the sentiment bluntly:
Ghosting is so unbelievably immature.
Unverified Account
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the circumstances described in the TikTok video. The details of the planned dates, communication between Trey and the woman, and the events surrounding the ghosting are based solely on @trey.lars’ account shared on TikTok.
