Key Highlights
- A 28-year-old man asked Reddit whether he was wrong to exclude one co-worker from his wedding.
- He described the co-worker as consistently negative and said she criticized his plan for a zero-alcohol celebration.
- Most r/AITAH users supported leaving her off the guest list, while The Daily Dot could not independently verify the post.
Reddit Users Support Wedding Guest Exclusion
A 28-year-old man turned to Reddit for advice after deciding he might not invite one of his co-workers to his wedding. The user, identified as u/sgaisnsvdis, posted on the r/AITAH subreddit on November 12 under the title “WIBTAH for not inviting one specific coworker to my wedding?”
The r/AITAH community is dedicated to judging whether users are wrong for their actions or decisions. At the time of writing, the post had received more than 120 upvotes and 180 comments.
The original poster said he worked in an office with three co-workers and one boss. He had a good relationship with everyone and wanted to invite his work friends to his wedding, but he felt differently about one woman because of what he described as her unusually negative and critical attitude.
Why the Co-Worker Became a Concern
To explain his concerns, the man described an incident involving a co-worker from another department who gave the woman flowers for her birthday.
“For example, a coworker in a different department brought her flowers for her birthday, and she complained that lilies are an awful gift because this person knows that she has cats and that lilies are poisonous to cats and she wholeheartedly believes that the coworker was trying to poison and kill her cats,” the user revealed.
The original poster also said the woman believed modern weddings should include alcohol and considered a celebration without it “tacky.” He and his fiancée, however, did not plan to serve alcohol at their wedding. That left him weighing two options: exclude the co-worker or invite her while asking her not to bring negativity to the event.
Reddit Advises Him Not to Invite Her
Several r/AITAH users quickly told the original poster that he was NTA, meaning “not the a*******.” One commenter urged him to leave the co-worker off the guest list.
“Don’t invite her,” one user reasoned. “You’re already worrying now and will just worry more the day of. Give yourself the peace of mind the day of, but having it be a little awkward now. If she asks why, just let her know that it’s a zero alcohol wedding and you knew she wouldn’t have fun, and you had to keep your guest list tight due to budget reasons.”
Another user agreed with that approach, writing, “t’s your wedding and you choose who you want there. If she’s not going to celebrate you and your partner, then she has no place there.” Multiple commenters also questioned why the original poster was considering inviting or confronting the woman when he did not consider her a friend.
A third commenter described the co-worker as “an energy vampire” and also advised against inviting her.
“She is an energy vampire. Definitely do not invite her to the wedding. She will find a way to bring the mood down. Either with her complaining the whole time, or with her drunkenness.”
The Daily Dot said it was unable to independently verify the details of the Reddit post.
Why This Matters
The discussion centers on the difference between workplace relationships and genuine friendships, particularly when a private wedding has limited space or a specific atmosphere. The Reddit responses largely framed the guest list as the couple’s decision, while also recognizing that excluding a co-worker could create awkwardness at the office. In this case, the couple’s planned zero-alcohol wedding and the co-worker’s reported views about alcohol were central to the advice.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why did the man consider not inviting his co-worker?
He said she had a consistently negative and critical attitude and believed she might react badly to the couple’s decision not to serve alcohol.
What did Reddit users advise?
Most commenters supported excluding the co-worker and said the original poster was NTA. Some suggested explaining that the wedding would be alcohol-free and that the guest list had to remain limited.
Was the Reddit post independently verified?
No. The Daily Dot reported that it was unable to independently verify the details of the post.
